No, you can’t play three hours of video games today.
No, we can’t play mini golf in the pouring rain.
No, we can’t eat pizza for dinner every night of the week.
The mini-tantrum ensues; the crying stops eventually. I don’t feel badly about it, and after the little tantrum, a little reality/fact check does the trick.
It’s good to be healthy/play/get exercise/read a book, and *just* playing video games isn’t doing that.
Mini golf sounds like fun until you’re freezing cold and soaking wet. But definitely some other time…
You’ll get sick of pizza eventually. Plus, you need variety of good foods to be healthy, and *just * eating pizza isn’t doing that.
He came home from school recently sounding *really* upset – and I try to stay out of these fits of temper so as not to undermine whatever my dear husband has been doing to handle the situation since the pick-up. I poke my head upstairs, ask him what’s going on, and usually walk away knowing things are well in hand.
This time, the surface story was “we didn’t get to play as long as I wanted after school.” The rest of the story was “my best friend didn’t want to play with me today.”
And so it begins… the day-to-day drama of school age relationships. If I recall correctly, there aren’t many – if any – facts that can soothe this kind of hurt?
“Maybe he was in a bad mood?”
“Maybe he didn’t want to play at all?” (Turns out, he was playing… with someone else.)
“Maybe he things will be better tomorrow…?” Time heals, I suppose.
I am just grateful that I am around for these moments, though I really don’t like to see him hurting. It’s just one little drama of the day. And he just needed a hug from mom, and a whole lot of “let’s take some deep breaths” and “everything’s going to be okay” kind of talk. Not facts. Talking at him was not going to make him feel better. He just needed someone to be there for him through the hurt.
And he’s only 6! I hope this is good practice for whatever’s going to come… and I hope it ramps up slowly…
Bio: Sitting still has never been easy for acoustic/indie/folk singer-songwriter Kim Jennings. A singer, piano and guitar player for years, the songwriting bug only bit her in 2007. Not three years later, Kim released her debut CD “My Own True North,” co-founded the indie record label “Birch Beer Records” with fellow singer-songwriter Dan Cloutier, and launched the We Support Local Music blog along with the “I Support Local Music in Massachusetts” Facebook page.
Named to Metronome Magazine’s Top 20 Hit List for 2010, and voted Best Female Vocalist in the 2010 Worcester Music Awards, Jennings keeps a busy schedule, performing as often as she can and running her record label. Not bad, considering that in her “free time” she’s also a full-time working soccer mom.
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