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Museum of Motherhood

MamaBlogger365 – With Heavy Heart by Kim Jennings

My heart is heavy.

My music community just lost one of our own. He was just 29. Too young. A mutual friend called me at work first thing in the morning to see if I knew anything about what happened to him. And I didn’t believe it, as I obsessively Googled his name all day and could not find anything about what happened, or an online obituary, or anything. Later that afternoon she emailed me a link. There isn’t a lot of detail, and I don’t know how he died. I don’t need to know.

All I know is that this circle of friends feels a sense of loss that I have not experienced with them before.

As soon as I heard, all I could think about was his mother and how she must feel. I haven’t met his family, and I can not begin to imagine what she is going through. But I look at my 6-year-old and can’t help but feel an acute sense of anxiety as I wonder how I could ever handle such permanent torment and pain.

My first experience of losing someone too young, too soon happened when I was 17. He was the star goalie of the varsity soccer team. I remember his pictures in the newspaper. He and I had the same basketball numbers on our jerseys. His younger sister and mine were good friends, and his best friend and mine were dating. Our moms were good friends. Then one day we heard that he had tried to commit suicide. He survived, and “went away” for a while. Several weeks later, he came back — and I remember thinking I wish I knew what to say to him. Soon after, on April Fools’ day, my mom told me the horrible news that he had taken his life. The floor seemed to disappear below me.

Like I said, I don’t know how my friend died. All I know is that he is gone. We have his music; we have his voice.

My son is only 6. Our troubles are not too difficult yet. Life is relatively straightforward and simple. As I think ahead to what kinds of ups and downs we may face, I look in his eyes and try to capture that look so that I can hold onto it when the inevitable ups and downs come later. I appreciate this innocence, the sense of possibility.

And I am heartbroken that other mothers have this taken away.

Bio: Sitting still has never been easy for acoustic/indie/folk singer-songwriter Kim Jennings. A singer, piano and guitar player for years, the songwriting bug only bit her in 2007. Not three years later, Kim released her debut CD “My Own True North,” co-founded the indie record label “Birch Beer Records” with fellow singer-songwriter Dan Cloutier, and launched the We Support Local Music blog along with the “I Support Local Music in Massachusetts” Facebook page.

Named to Metronome Magazine’s Top 20 Hit List for 2010, and voted Best Female Vocalist in the 2010 Worcester Music Awards, Jennings keeps a busy schedule, performing as often as she can and running her record label. Not bad, considering that in her “free time” she’s also a full-time working soccer mom.

Keep up with Kim Jennings and her musical projects at
www.kimjenningsmusic.com
, www.birchbeerrecords.com, and www.we-support-local-music.com.

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About M. Joy Rose

Woman, Mother, Human, Rocker, Educator, Activist Director; Museum of Motherhood President and Founder; MaMaPaLooZa Inc. a company by Women, Promoting (M)others for social, cultural and economic benefit. Dedicated to a more educated, more peaceful, more musical planet.

Discussion

4 thoughts on “MamaBlogger365 – With Heavy Heart by Kim Jennings

  1. Thanks Kim, for sharing. Two of my children are 28 and 30, so Nick fits just in between. I could only admire Stacy and Chris’s composure. I am sure this has been hard on so many. My mother lost my youngest sister at the age of 23 to suicide. She never truly got over it. I pray daily to never outlive my children. Blessings. Jane

    Posted by Jane Fallon | May 18, 2011, 17:48
  2. Kim, beautifully written from the heart which is what makes you such a special person and songwriter. I didn’t know Nick personally other than watching and hearing him perform and sitting in awe of the power of his art. I wish I had gotten to know him better which is a reminder that life is too short and relationships are so precious.

    Posted by Marc Bridge | May 18, 2011, 18:46

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