Okay, so you turn the calendar to a new year and suddenly you think something should change. You’ll get those pesky 20 pounds off once and for all! You will finally quit smoking. Or you’ll definitely get promoted or change jobs this year. Or perhaps this is the year you will have a better relationship with your spouse – or your kids – or your parents…
The list goes on and on. But, as we all know, even with the best intentions, New Year’s resolutions fade after a few short weeks, if not a few days!
There are several reasons for this.
1) Most of the resolutions we make for ourselves at New Year’s are not real goals but rather they are “shoulds”. You “should” lose those few pounds. You “should” be promoted. You “should” make amends with your mother. You “should” treat your husband or wife better. You “should” quit smoking.
But you don’t really want to.
2) Perhaps you’re really not clear about what it will actually take for you to succeed at the resolution. This means you don’t have a clear plan of action outlining the necessary steps required.
If you don’t know what to do, how can you expect to follow through?
3) Change requires effort. It requires that you change something about yourself, not just your circumstance. You generally have to improve and develop yourself in order to make the change happen.
And you don’t want to do the work. Not a bad thing – this is not about judging you. The reality is simply that you are not yet willing to do the work required to make the change. It’s much easier to accept this about yourself rather than give yourself a hard time.
4) Many goals – especially New Year’s resolutions – are often made abruptly, without much thought or visioning.
If you don’t know what you really want, how can you expect to get there?
Setting a goal or making a New Year’s Resolution needs to be done with thought and consideration. Choosing the wrong goal based on someone else’s ideas of who you should be or made out of guilt or shame will not be enough of a motivator to get you off your duff to do the work needed to accomplish your goal.
Take the time to consider what you really want for yourself and choose a goal based on the value it will add to your life and the willingness you have to commit to doing the work and making the change.
The rewards from making a change are worth the effort. Imagine where you could be at the end of this year if you focus on achieving what you want!
Chasing the wrong goal, however, can make you miserable and set you up for failure.
To your success in health, wealth and love,
Coach Julie RN ~ Nurturing Your Success
Julie Donley is the author of the NEWLY RELEASED and HIGHLY ANTICIPATED book: Does Change have to be so H.A.R.D.? Get your copy today!
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